I have often wondered why the world treats marriage so casually. I have wondered why there is no formal “School of Marriage” in most universities. People can spend four years studying how to care for animals like dogs, poultry, goats, and other livestock, yet there is hardly any structured education on how to live with a spouse, someone you may spend the rest of your life with until death.
Why is this so?
I have also wondered why many churches are not intentional about educating members of Christ’s body concerning marriage. To me, this is a serious error.
People can spend four years studying how to care for animals like dogs, poultry, goats, and other livestock, yet there is hardly any structured education on how to live with a spouse.
Many professors who could advocate for such courses are themselves struggling with broken marriages. Some ministers who are meant to teach and guide others are silently enduring challenges in their own marriages. When those who should model and teach healthy relationships are hurting, it becomes difficult to build strong foundations for others.
Perhaps this explains the visible decay in what should be a sacred institution. Even the altar of God is described as being covered with tears and weeping (Malachi 2:13–15). When there is a lack of proper knowledge about God’s intentions and purpose for marriage, imperfect people begin searching endlessly for a “perfect” partner.
But marriage was never designed for perfect people. It was designed for prepared people.
Whatever qualities you desire in a spouse, strive first to become that person yourself.
Until we embrace the true foundation for a trouble-free marriage, marriage can begin to feel like hard labour—constantly struggling to make it work instead of enjoying it. Many also find themselves in bondage because of wrong relationships entered without wisdom, understanding, or spiritual preparation.
Our casual attitude toward marriage has negatively affected society. Homes are weakened, children are confused, and communities suffer.
At the core of it all is our relationship with Christ. When your relationship with Christ is strong, you magnify His Word above opinions, culture, and emotions. You seek His design rather than inventing your own.
Marriage is not merely a social arrangement. It is a divine institution that requires knowledge, preparation, and intentional growth.
If we are willing to study careers, businesses, and even hobbies, should we not also study marriage?
Perhaps it is time for the Church to return to intentional teaching, preparation, and mentorship concerning this sacred covenant.
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